It Is A Whole Family Discussion
Change starts in the home. Change starts with your parenting decisions as father and a responsible party. It isn’t about orders, demands, or expectations placed on the child by you the parents. Rather, it is about an evolution of family relationship, mentally, emotionally, and physically.Here is a quick Guide on How to Raise a Well-Adjusted Kid.
If you want to raise a well-adjusted kid, you need to grow the child in a well-adjusted family experience. Think of the plants in your yard. You can buy all of the quality soil (i.e., education) that you want, but if the environment (i.e., family situation) is too cold, windy, rainy, or dark, the plant will grow altered and weak.
So, the lessons and advice below not only concern parenting techniques, but also concern fathering techniques. If you can’t live up to your own expectations, how do you think your child will?
Boundaries
Boundaries are difficult to place on children because as fathers we understand the negatives of activities but can’t see how our kid’s lives differ from ours. Boundaries are vitally important but need to be discussed rather than decided. It also means boundaries for you as well. This is important for a positive Relationship After a Baby.
Routines
Routines could relate to chores, screen-time, homework or even naps for toddlers. However, it should also include your routine. What can you guarantee to your child as a routine for them to rely on? Can you offer a set time to always be with them?
Early Bedtimes
Sleep is necessary at all stages of life. Getting to bed early is vital to the full REM cycle needs of everyone. However, each age is different on hours needed and general sleeping cycles. Be cognizant of these changes and allow bedtimes to evolve as your child grows.
Empathy
The most common connecting thread between all humans is the desire to be heard and understood. Often the frustration your child feels isn’t that they physically or mentally hurt, but rather that they feel alone in the emotion. This is a requirement on you, as a father, to push beyond what you may normally emotionally understand and see the world from your child’s eyes. You will need to sit, listen, and express verbally that you emotionally understand them. This all needs to be done in a non-judgmental way, so that they can trust opening up to you.
Physical Touch
Physical touch is a way to show that you are present for them, that you support them, and that you care about them. Your touch is important to show that physical touch is a positive part of life and a great way to connect with another person. This could be a simple hug, high five, or pat on the back.
Positive Experiences
Your child, no matter the age from 1 month to 1 decade, needs to see positive reinforcement in the world around them. They need to read books, listen to music, see art in all of its forms, experience the wonders of the human-made world, and that of the natural world. A well-rounded individual with a large breath of experiences is a well-adjusted individual because they can put their world into perspective of others.
Lead by Example (well-adjusted kid)
Everyone has to deal with work, friends, and family, by learning How to Deal With “External forces” – Family and Friends. However, our children are not fully equipped to make these mental decisions on their own without us. This means, as a father or parent or guardian of any kind, you need to live the life you teach.
If you preach forgiveness and understanding, then show that in your daily life. If you preach humility and openness, live those philosophies every day. You can’t lecture all the time, and your kid can’t understand everything via “life lectures.” So, teach via your actions, and they will soak it all in.